Actress and author Diane Farr’s new book, Kissing Outside the Lines, charts the personal and political challenges of entering an interracial marriage. This week in GOOD’s video series, What Do You Love, Farr takes us on a tour of the small stuff. Here are 10 little things she loves:

1 when the babysitter walks in the door
2 seeing the freeway is empty
3 exhaling on the purple yoga mat
4 any class but coach
5 finding my man’s hand in my sleep under the covers
6 being included
7 being cooked for
8 seven hours of sleep in a row
9 my first day in a new place
10 holding my little ones’ hands in mine

The Numb3rs star pens a hilarious memoir about the challenges that await a mixed-race couple.

Love may conquer all, but that doesn’t make it any easier to win over strict Korean parents. In Kissing Outside the Lines, actress Diane Farr tells the humorous take of dating her histand-to-be, marketing executive Seung Yong Chung, sharing her own creative methods (like hiring a “cultural attache”) and those of 20 mixed race and religious couples across the country. Now a mom of three, Diane, 42, talks to Star about her successful struggle.

Q: We all know you as an actress. When did you start writing?

The writing was born from filling in the times between acting gigs. I hated sitting around waiting for someone to give me a job. Over 15 years I just got better at it.

Q: How difficult was your courtship, exactly?

Mine is a very traditional Korean story. My husband’s parents sent relatives to meet me one at a time until there were enough approvals. By the time I met them they couldn’t have been kinder, but I was never unaware that the process was their doing.

Q: How did you handle it?

As my husband said, disliking your child’s choice of mate is part of the process in an Asian family. It sort of became a game – a game I wanted to win.

Q: What will readers take away from the book?

You just have to keep showing up and being the person you are because most of this is fear of the unknown. A change of heart takes time.

Diane Farr

Character: Jill Robinson, is a Grad Student/Teacher’s Assistant who meets Hank while having dinner at The Deanery. They end up going at it on top of the Dean’s desk in his home.

Background: Diane Farr has written two books. The first, The Girl Code, was published in 2001 and has been translated into 7 languages. Her most recent book, Kissing Outside the Lines was published in May 2011 and is a comical memoir on her path to an interracial marriage. Farr also writes for a number of American magazines and has an internationally syndicated newspaper column for the International Herald Tribune. Diane was a co-host of Loveline on MTV for 200 episodes, and made guest appearances on The Drew Carey Show, Arli$$ and CSI. She portrayed the recurring role of Amy DeLuca, mother to series co-star Majandra Delfino’s character Maria, on The WB’s and later UPN’s Roswell. She also played Maddie Hudson on The WB’s Like Family. Diane appeared in the cast of Rescue Me, playing a firefighter for two seasons. She left Rescue Me to star as FBI agent Megan Reeves on the CBS crime drama
Numb3rs.

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